How to respond effectively to women in abusive relationships (Without tearing your hair out!)

 

"In spite of my best efforts, my support and encouragement, my client STILL wants to return to a dangerous relationship. What can I do? "

Does any of this sound like you? 

  • Do you wake up in the morning worrying about WHAT NEW ABUSE WILL COME to your client or patient TODAY?
  • Are you worried that you don't understand what drives your client? Are you baffled by her decisions?
  • Are you feeling frustrated, watching her make excuses for her bruises and missed work days - again?
  • Are your therapeutic outcomes not what you'd like them to be? Wouldn't it be great if you KNEW you had helped a woman make progress in her life?
  • Do you find yourself avoiding taking on female clients or patients who are in abusive relationships? Just thinking about the challenge can be daunting.
  • DO YOU FEEL LIKE A FAILURE OR A FRAUD? That being well trained, you should be able to help her make positive changes, and yet you wonder if you are even cut out for this work.
  • So the safety plan and the cycle of violence handouts were not enough. She has returned to her abusive relationship. Do you wonder what on earth to do next?
  • DO YOU WORRY THAT SHE WILL BE SERIOUSLY HURT, or maybe even killed by her partner?
  • Do you fear you have taken on a client whose issues are beyond your skill set?
  • Is she avoiding you, or maybe even lying to you about what is going on in her relationship?
  • Have you lost confidence that you can actually coach your patient or client to a safe and happy life?
  • Are you wondering how to help her turn defeat into success?

 

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If any of this sounds like you, please know that you are NOT ALONE!

It would be my honour to work with you to support your client, parishioner, employee, union member, resident or patient.

Imagine what is possible for you...

  • Imagine helping her be clear about what she wants and STAYING SAFE while she makes her plans.
  • Imagine feeling confident that you know how to respond effectively and knowing what to do next, whatever her situation and choices.
  • IMAGINE FEELING CONFIDENT THAT YOU CAN HELP HER PREVENT ABUSE IN THE FUTURE.
  • Imagine knowing you did all you could to help her try to make it work before she decides to leave. She is more likely to be able to leave if she knows she tried everything.  Coach her to feel good about her decision, whatever it is. 
  • Imagine that you finally understand WHY she keeps returning to her abusive relationship, and knowing what to do about it.
  • Imagine the satisfaction of helping her start a new life, free from abuse.
  • Imagine having a step-by-step guideline to follow, with recommended actions to take under different situations, and resources for you to use to help her learn the skills she needs.
  • Imagine building a network of other frontline professionals to share your successes and techniques with.
  • All this, and 28 CEC CREDITS  as well!

If this sounds good to you, I am ready to help you get it.

 

Woman Freedom

You are ready to expand your tool box of clinical skills!

 

I can teach you what I wish I had known earlier

I have been a therapist and an educator for 50 years, and I have helped hundreds of women who are in abusive relationships. In fact, I have been through it myself.

When I finally broke down and admitted to some friends what was going on, no one believed me. Even professionals who could be expected to know better, did not know what to say or do. It was very discouraging.

Then when I encountered women in my work who felt stuck in an abusive relationship, I certainly felt for them, I thought I understood, but I still struggled to be helpful. At the time, there was very little literature on the subject, which was almost taboo. So I had to learn on my own.

I wish I had known as a beginning therapist what I know now - and I can teach you the skills I wish I'd had 50 years ago.

Kate Tompkins

Sadie R., Yellowknife

"Kate, you may not remember me, I took your course 10 years ago. It gave me a whole new career direction. Thanks for the tips, I feel so much more useful now for my patients." 

Did you know that one out of every 3 women in any workplace has experienced some form of abuse at home?

Statistics Canada tells us that abuse is more widespread than most of us realize. How many of your clients or patients are talking to you about being abused? Probably less than the real number. We know that many women do not report. And when they do, often the frontline worker they open up to does not know how to respond. So she gives up. Her failure feels complete.

But it doesn't have to be that way.

You can be the worker that finally gets her, that knows how to help her reinvent herself.

Imagine a workplace, imagine a neighbourhood, imagine a society, in which everyone feels safe, everyone looks out for each other, everyone has your back. You can be a big part of making that dream come true.


You've got this!

Whether you are a beginning professional helper,

and you have not yet had a great deal of experience working with women involved with intimate partner abuse, or your training did not include this scenario in sufficient depth,

Or,

You are a seasoned pro and want to expand your tool box of skills,

(Or maybe you just want some worthwhile CEC credits!)

 
I am excited to show you what I have learned over the years.
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Introducing

The Breakout Pro For Frontline Workers: How To Respond Effectively to Women in Abusive Relationships

The ultimate 6-week guide to competency.

 

Imagine knowing what do.

Imagine having the resources to help her effectively.

 

All The Tools You Need To Help Your Clients Make Life Safer, Happier, More Satisfying

 

 Here's what you'll walk away with...

  • A plan to help your client or patient get ready to make big changes in her life and to stay safe while she does it.
  • A step-by-step guide with recommended actions for different scenarios.
  • Resources you can use to work with your client - videos, print articles, websites, checklists, suggested research and learning activities to keep her engaged with her own progress.
  • The opportunity to network with other professionals who understand what you are dealing with.
  • A simple  technique practiced by many women that you can coach her to use, to successfully transform her relationship. 
  • Confidence. That wonderful, energizing feeling that you CAN help her to create a fantastic new life for herself and her children.
  • 28 CE credits.

 

Join me to learn everything you need to know to help her transform her life.

 

Yes! I want these skills in my toolbox!

Here's what you get,  when you invest in The Breakout Pro For Frontline Workers. 

All the tools you need to help her get her life back.

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Plenty of engaging, hands-on activities (Value $5000)

Feel your new skills  growing every week. Learn from lots of resources, and from expert resource people. Enjoy the convenience of an on-line learning program.

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6 live implementation calls (Value $1200)

Get your burning questions answered live. Fine-tune your skills and grow your confidence with feedback from the instructor and fellow course participants.

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Templates, checklists, guides and reviews (Value $497)

Exclusive, professionally designed learning materials to guide your journey and keep track of what you learn so you can be confident in your new skills.

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Bonus: Private coaching (Value $100)


One free 30-minute phone call so you can
fine tune your knowledge and skills  with expert help. 

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Bonus: A supportive community (Value: Priceless!)

Share your questions, triumphs and challenges with other frontline workers who get it in our private Facebook group. Get support and accountability from your new team. Experience the power of a group of like-minded professionals to mastermind plans and solutions to common problems. Be uplifted and inspired by a group of pros supporting each other. 

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Bonus: 28 CE Credits (Value: What Is Your Career Worth?)

 28 Continuing Education Credits are available for students who complete the Breakout Pro for Frontline Workers.

If your license requires annual CE credits, here is your source!

 

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Step up to the Platinum Package

  (Value: $1200)

Add in 6 hours of private 1:1 coaching to fast track your new professional skills.

Have you ever signed up for something, gotten really excited about it, then sort of - lost momentum when the course was over? Coaching can re-ignite that spark and help you accomplish what you want to do.

Or maybe you get stuck on one of the activities and could use a bit more explanation, support, whatever it takes to get past that hurdle?

1:1 coaching can make all the difference in the world. What is your ability to make a difference worth to you? Your investment in coaching can be a game changer for you. 

 

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Here are the content-rich learning modules in your comprehensive career-changing program:

 

Help Her Prepare To Be A Breakout Pro

"Where does she start?" When her mind and body are at their best, she can get ready to make big changes. 

Help Her Find the Right Support

"Where can she find the right help?" Not all help is equal. What is the best fit for her? What she should look for and what she should ask. This step is crucial to her success. 

The Secret to Ending The Abuse

"What if she wants to stay in the relationship?" The Breakout Pro system to modify the dynamics of her relationship. She may be able to end the abuse but keep the relationship.

The Breakout Pro Escape Plan

"What if she needs to leave?" When it's time to go, assist her to leave safely. Where to go? What to pack? Who to help her move? How to help her stay safe at this most critical and dangerous time.

The Secrets to Creating a New Life

"What about her future?" Help her heal from the abuse, and plan a new wonderful, abuse free life! What factors does she need to think about?

Are you ready to expand your toolbox of skills?

 

Yes I'm ready!

Gold Package

$397

Top features

  • 6 learning modules with step by step instructions so you'll have everything you need to help her make big changes
  • 6 live implementation calls with the instructor and fellow participants so you can fine tune your skills
  • A guide to support her in changes that are doable by an instructor who has been through it herself
  • Weekly assignments so you stay on track and keep your confidence up
  • A learning community so you can support others and be supported confidentially by other frontline workers who get it
  • Valuable bonuses to make your online course a success
  • 28 CE Credits

Total value: $6797

Your investment: Only $397

3-month installment plan available

 

Yes I'm in!

Platinum Package

$697 CAD

Top features: Everything the Gold package delivers...

  • 6 learning modules with step by step instructions so you'll have everything you need to help her  make big changes
  • 6 live implementation calls with the instructor and fellow participants so you can fine tune your skills
  • A guide to support her in changes that are doable by an instructor who has been through it herself
  • A learning community so you can support others and be supported confidentially by other frontline workers who get it
  • Valuable bonuses to make your online course a success
  • 28 CE Credits

Plus:

6 hours of private 1:1 coaching or counselling with the instructor to help you put your skills in motion

Total Value: $7997

Your investment: Only $697

3-month installment plan available

Yes! This is for me!

The Rev. Christina Baxter, MTS BCC, Halifax

"This course is an excellent combination of theory and practice which I find enlightening and useful.  It has strengthened my understanding and compassion for women in  abusive situations/relationships.  By applying this knowledge and the exercises I can accompany my patient as she creates new neural pathways by effectively employing reflective/active listening."

Sarah B., Vancouver

"I felt like I had hit a wall trying to work with my parishioner. I just did not know to start or what to do to help her. Now I have a plan.

Thanks!"

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Money back guarantee

Try the Breakout Pro For Frontline Workers for 7 days risk free. If you decide that you're not ready to commit to learning how to help your clients make changes in their relationships, or that this program isn't for you, then return it to us for a full refund, we’ll even cover the fees we have to pay our credit card processor.

Gold Package

$397

Top features

  • 6 learning modules with step by step instructions so you'll have everything you need to help her make big changes
  • 6 live implementation calls with the instructor and fellow participants so you can fine tune your skills
  • A guide to supporting her with changes that are doable by an instructor who has been through it herself
  • Weekly assignments so you stay on track and keep your confidence up
  • A learning community so you can support others and be supported confidentially by other frontline workers who get it
  • Valuable bonuses to make your online course a success
  • 28 CE Credits

Total value: $6797

Your investment: Only $397

3-month installment plan available

 

Yes I'm in!

Platinum Package

$697

Top features: Everything the Gold package delivers...

  • 6 learning modules with step by step instructions so you'll have everything you need to help her make big changes
  • 6 live implementation calls with the instructor and fellow participants so you can fine tune your skills
  • A guide to supporting her with changes that are doable by an instructor who has been through it herself
  • A learning community so you can support others and be supported confidentially by other frontline workers who get it
  • Valuable bonuses to make your online course a success
  • 28 CE Credits

Plus:

6 hours of private 1:1 coaching or counselling with the instructor to help you put your skills in motion

Total Value: $7997

Your investment: Only $697

3-month installment plan available

Yes! This is for me!

I hope you'll join me to learn everything you need to support those you help to become Breakout Pros and make a big difference in their lives.

Kate
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